Surviving Family Estrangement: You are NOT going crazy!

So you would be surprised by many people who, in throes of estrangement, reach out and tell me they feel feel like they are going crazy or going mad.Maybe they feel like they are over-reacting to situations, maybe highly sensitive, or just very uncertain of themselves. And this could be reinforced by people in their lives who might judgemental/critical to their reactions, seeing only outward … Continue reading Surviving Family Estrangement: You are NOT going crazy!

Surviving Estrangement: Are you trapped inside the family narrative?

I was reading the book ‘Happiness by design’ by behavioural scientist Paul Dolan and one concept he discovered was the idea of narrative traps…which is when our happiness is determined by societal expectations, such as the car, the big house, the high salary, the perfect body, etc. and we spend our lives as slaves to this narrative by working crazy hours and becoming as far … Continue reading Surviving Estrangement: Are you trapped inside the family narrative?

Estrangement and Starting your own Family

This is a video I wanted to do last year but never got around to it and now’s as good a time as ever. So myself and my wife were at a prenatal course last year and there was a big group of couple’s, round 40 people, all ready to be first time parents. We were broken into smaller groups of 5 couples where we … Continue reading Estrangement and Starting your own Family

Estrangement and Reconciliation: Do you belong in each others life?

The decision to reconcile is often an ongoing and tortuous process. This is true at any point of the estrangement but particularly after a great deal of time has passed and all parties are off living their own lives. And yet we yearn for a healthy connection, driven by the human desire to create/recreate happier times. With my clients, they have to make their own decision on … Continue reading Estrangement and Reconciliation: Do you belong in each others life?

Intuition

Estrangement, Uncertainty and Decision-Making: Intuition Vs Impulse

At the best of times, an estrangement involves a constant process of managing uncertainties but naturally, with what is happening right now, a crisis state is being triggered in many people as they feel an added pressure to respond/react but at the same time they are unsure of what exactly to do. In my last video on Estrangement and the impact of the Corona virus, I … Continue reading Estrangement, Uncertainty and Decision-Making: Intuition Vs Impulse

Family Estrangement and the impact of the Corona Virus

I was hesitant to record any video about the corona virus as there is so many people putting out opinions and I personally think there is too much noise and not enough hard facts around the situation. so I didn’t really want to add to this. However, there’s been a few emails coming in and one post on the Facebook group how people are managing their estrangement … Continue reading Family Estrangement and the impact of the Corona Virus

Living with Family Estrangement: Do you discuss the estrangement publicly?

Discussing an estrangement is a very personal decision…some choose to talk publicly about it and others chose to keep it private and closed.  Personally, I rarely talk about my own estrangement publicly as that’s my choice and my right to privacy and to set clear boundaries. And it might be the same anyone else reading this and I completely understand why someone would choose to … Continue reading Living with Family Estrangement: Do you discuss the estrangement publicly?

Family Estrangement: Is it possible to reconcile?

Something that has come up a few times the last few weeks in my client work is the topic of reconciliations, especially unexpected ones. Some of my clients are finding themselves in an unusual position where a reconciliation might be on the cards or they are keen to try. The video below explores reconciliations: if they are possible, how they are possible and what makes an enduring … Continue reading Family Estrangement: Is it possible to reconcile?